Self-TALK - PUSH THROUGH YOUR FEARS « Inward Core

Self-Talk can be verbal or nonverbal, but it is a way in which you speak to yourself about yourself. It can be negative or positive. Seldom is it ever neutral. Most people use self-talk when they are getting dressed in the morning, and some use it continuously throughout the day. Often, we are not aware of the messages we send ourselves. It can be as simple as thinking, "I look fat in these pants," which can set off a negative feeling about confidence, which can erode an entire day.

I AM FREE - NO MORE FEARS

Self-Talk is a way we handle our doubts and fears about the present and the future. It can be heavily ladden with messages from the past. Often, people talk themselves out of trying new things or moving forward, because their negative self-talk holds them hostage. So, if self-talk is negative, how do we go about changing the way we speak to ourselves? The first thing is to be mindful of the messages we send ourselves. Usually, self-talk goes on in the background of our lives and its so a part of us that we don't realize how it is causing problems. The only way to turn this around is to begin by giving ourselves healthy, positive messages. This can be as simple as putting positive statements on the mirror, such as, "Today is a new beginning and I am going to rock it." It may seem like a cheesy manuevor, but can go a long way to setting the tone for the rest of the day. Learning to battle the voice inside that is a nay-sayer takes time and practice. Be gentle to yourself as you learn new ways to incorporate happy, positive messages into your daily life. It will take time, but you can do it.

Dr. Cloda

Dr. Cloda Jones is a clinical and school psychologist. She has a Master's degree in Social Work and School Psychology and a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. She has worked over 20 years with children, adolescents, and adults. She maintains a private practice in Pasadena, California.

Application:

Now that you have learn about Self TALK, Inward Core will like to show you more ways to change your Self Talk

1. Identity your Fears and write down statements you say to yourself and others to confirm your fears. Examples: I'm going to loose my job because my supervisor does not like me! (Your fear is loosing your job) I am in my 30s, 40s, or 50s and I'm never going to find the right person to married. (Fear of not getting married or finding someone) I've been trying to work this business for 6 years and no progress. (fear of not reaching goals/dream)

2. Write beside each statement the opposite of what you desire to happen.
Examples: I'm going to loose my job because my supervisor does not like me! (Your fear is loosing your job) - Response: Although I feel my supervisor does not like me, I'm still going to offer my best, and if this job is for me I will remain, if not I will find another one with better pay and better hours. I refuse to walk in fear of the unknown.

I am in my 30s, 40s, or 50s and I'm never going to find the right person to married. (Fear of not getting married or finding someone) - Response: Most of the people I've met are not what I desire, but there is someone out there. I will continue to enjoy life and when that person comes in my life I will know it. But I'm loved, desired, and fulfilled today and will not worry or fear my future.

3. Have positive statements in places you view all the time. Inside your car, bathroom, clothing, favorite cup, office, etc. This step reminds you what you choose to believe and help remove negative self-talk or change it to positive self-talk. We are speaking about Pushing through our FEARS so Inward Core created shirts to help you change your self-talk with No Fears tee shirts. Get yours today at www.inwardcorehealthcare.com and click on resources!

Please send Inward Core an email of any fears you decided to Push Through or email us if you need more suggestions to help you push through your fears.

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